Rest assured, you can learn not to lose it during your child’s tantrums (and to prevent meltdowns in the future).
Young children really do have their worst tantrums around extended family
October 17, 2018What NOT to Do When Your Child Is Having a Tantrum: Tips on responding to difficult toddler behavior
Even when we know, as parents, how we should respond to a tantrum, in the heat of the moment we find it hard to resist doing the wrong thing — something that not only doesn’t work but makes things worse. Taking a moment to consider why it’s particularly crucial to avoid these responses, with some tips on how to do so, can help cement your resolve not to turn to them reflexively.
September 28, 2018It Takes Two to Tantrum: When toddlers act out, parental expectations are a piece of the puzzle
Most of the time, when your child is having a tantrum, the episode is more accurately characterized as an interaction between the two of you. Generally, your child’s behavior influences the way you respond, which then influences her behavior, which then influences your reaction, and so on. This is why, in my practice, I sometimes refer to “tantrum interactions,” rather than “tantrums,” when working with parents.
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Why we should let our children feel their feelings when a new sibling comes along.
How learning to balance structure and compassion helps your kid grow and thrive.
The value of seeing the world through your child’s eyes.
Playful strategies for when positive attention just isn’t enough.
Why your attention is your most valuable gift and most powerful tool.