Dr. Hershberg has been helping parents with their kids (and vice versa) for more than a decade, through her extensive and varied clinical work, her interactive workshops, and, since 2013, her private practice, Little House Calls.


Love & Limits

Decades of research demonstrate that “good” parenting – the kind that most frequently leads to healthy, well-adjusted children – involves two equally important dimensions: warmth and structure. I like to call them “love and limits.”

Young children need not only to be loved; they need to feel loved. And part of feeling loved is feeling safe, knowing that the grown-ups in their lives are making the rules and calling the shots in predictable, consistent ways. So while love and limits may feel like conflicting priorities, the latter is in fact part of how we demonstrate the former.

Children who grow up in homes with high levels of both warmth and structure tend to fare best in the world that awaits them. Those whose early childhoods lack one or both of these dimensions are likely to face additional challenges later on. The good news: if our parenting involves equal and abundant measures of love and limits, then we’re doing better than OK. The endless other details over which we parents obsess are trivial by comparison.

Babies are (tiny, curious) People

Even though they may sometimes seem more like alien beings intent on wreaking havoc, we have to recognize that infants and toddlers are people (albeit small ones!). They have no experience of the world, and are trying to make sense of the strangeness and novelty they find at every turn. The parents I work with often hear me remind them to breathe for a moment and to put themselves in their child’s shoes, because understanding our children’s perspectives helps us respond in a way that truly meets their needs.

Parents are (tired, imperfect) People

It’s all too easy to forget about the “parent” that’s doing all this “parenting.” We often think of parents in the abstract, as dispassionate, omnipotent actors rather than human beings with their own histories and psychological burdens. We’re all trying to raise our infants and toddlers in the best way we know how. It’s difficult work, and a lot of our own “stuff” gets dredged up along the way. Unless we’re careful, that “stuff” can have a negative impact on the relationships we build with our kids. In my years of professional experience, I have found that there is no way to navigate parenting without diving deep, where things inevitably get a bit muddy.

About Little House Calls


In 2013, a friend asked me to give a talk for the Parents’ Association of the preschool she directs just a few blocks from where I grew up, on the Upper West Side of Manhattan. At the time, I was working full-time at Healthy Steps for Montefiore, an infant and toddler mental health promotion program integrated within a variety of outpatient pediatric practices in the Bronx. “I’ve heard you describe what you do,” she explained, “and I think that our parents could really benefit.” I wasn’t entirely sure what she meant.  In the Bronx, I worked with parents and children in highly stressed, resource-poor communities, many of whom had been exposed to trauma. And my friend wanted me to come speak to parents on the Upper West Side?

I’m glad I decided to trust her. The talk I gave to the Parents’ Association at my friend’s school was the day that Little House Calls was born. As I spoke — about infant brain development, toddlers’ social-emotional skills and ways to promote positive behavior in preschoolers — parents began raising their hands — and asking really good questions. Some furiously scribbled notes;  others intently nodded their heads. Was my talk good? I mean, sure, it was fine. More than that, though, it drove home to me the fact that these parents were starving for advice about their little ones — eager for someone to help them wade through numerous, often conflicting, parenting tips found in countless blogs, Facebook status updates and mother-in-law side comments (solicited or otherwise).

Several parents approached me afterward: “Do you have a card?” They asked. At the time, I didn’t. And then one mother laughed; “Can’t you just come to our house during bath time one day,” she joked, “and see our daughter in action?” Unfortunately, of course, I couldn’t. But then, why not?

The first of my two sons was born the following March. And despite all my experience with parents and their kids, being a first-time parent was the hardest thing I’d ever done. I couldn’t imagine becoming a mom without all of the training I’ve had, and yet the training had all been for professional, not personal, reasons. Most new parents are, obviously, not early childhood psychologists; somehow, though, they’re expected to know how to handle every unexpected curveball they’ll be thrown simply by virtue of their decision to have a baby. And if they can’t, or if they need some extra support, then reading a book, or a few articles, is supposed to do the trick. Except it rarely works out that way. Because our children and our parenting — let’s face it, our lives — are complicated. There’s no such thing as one size fits all.

And thus was born Little House Calls.

About Dr. Hershberg


Dr. Hershberg is a clinical psychologist who specializes in early childhood social-emotional development and mental health.
In addition to being the founder of Little House Calls Psychological Services, PLLC, she is the Director of Early Childhood at Ramapo for Children, an organization focused on ensuring, through both direct service and training programs, that all children are able to learn, feel valued, and succeed both in school and at home. She is also a Program Affiliate of the McSilver Institute for Poverty Policy and Research at New York University. Prior to her current work, Dr. Hershberg was most recently the Director of Training and Quality for Healthy Steps at Children’s Hospital at Montefiore, an infant and toddler preventive mental health program that gained national and international attention for its integration of early childhood mental health professionals within primary care pediatrics. She also held an Assistant Professorship in the Department of Pediatrics at the Albert Einstein College of Medicine, through which she taught both pediatric residents and medical students.

Dr. Hershberg earned her Bachelor of Arts degree at Yale University, from which she graduated summa cum laude. She obtained her PhD in Clinical Psychology at the University of Virginia, where she was a fellow of the Center for Children, Families and the Law, and was the recipient of the Buffett Fellowship for Applied Work in the area of Children and Families in Need. She completed her pre-doctoral internship at Bellevue Hospital Center and the New York University Child Study Center, following which she worked as a child psychologist at Bellevue Hospital Center and New York City’s Administration for Children’s Services (ACS). During this time, she was also a Clinical Instructor of Psychology in the Department of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry at the New York University School of Medicine.

Dr. Hershberg has written several articles for Big City Moms (an online destination for mothers, mothers-to-be, and families), presented seminars and workshops at numerous preschools and pediatric practices in and around New York City, conducted seminars for Six Degrees of Mom (a NYC-based private playgroup community), authored book chapters, and been published in multiple peer-reviewed journals. She lives in Dobbs Ferry, NY with her husband and two young sons, who both keep her busier – though also smiling! – more than any of the above.